Adrian Savage has come up with 10 simple ways to save yourself form messing up your life. What's funny is that the list makes me want to thunk my head on the desk, since a lot of these things are things that I seem to have needed to learn the hard way - that is, through a lot of misery, etc.
Of course, that headdesk feeling is part of my Inner Critic, and...
Take no notice of your inner critic. Judging yourself is pointless. Judging others is half-witted. Whatever you achieve, someone else will always do better. However bad you are, others are worse. Since you can tell neither what’s best nor what’s worst, how can you place yourself correctly between them?Even better, though, is what he says about judging others:
Judging others is foolish since you cannot know all the facts, cannot create a reliable or objective scale, have no means of knowing whether your criteria match anyone else’s, and cannot have more than a limited and extremely partial view of the other person. Who cares about your opinion anyway?I find this useful not for me, but actually for in my own tendency to really care about how others perceive my actions.
Goal for today: Live according to my own values, not someone else's.